Searching For a Real Love? Start Within.

We are in love with love. We watch The Notebook, and our heart flutters. We watch The Vow and shed tears. We see the beauty of love surrounding us, and it inspires us. Simply knowing that we have somebody to encourage us, somebody to be our high when we’re low, and somebody to spend the rest of our lives with satisfies the lover in all of us. While this is a beautiful thing, we often forget that the person we need to love first is ourselves.

Being in love is an amazing feeling. There’s no doubt about that. But I’m here to tell you, there’s a love that’s even more amazing, and yet so many of us have trouble finding and accepting that love – self-love. Now you think, “Of course I love myself.” Sure, you like yourself, but truly loving yourself is another story.

Learning to love yourself is one of the most important things you’ll ever do in your life, and it’s something that we all learn to do eventually. So why not start the journey now?

Ready to begin your path to self-love? Here’s three easy ways to get started:

1. Celebrate what makes you great.  We tend to be especially hard on ourselves both personally and professionally. We never give ourselves enough credit when it's due or we spend too much time nitpicking the smallest of issues. Stop this! No, you're not perfect and there will always be things about yourself that you'll want to improve. What's important is that you focus on the positive things in your life and how unique, daring, intelligent, etc. you are. You're one in a million - don't forget it!

2. Positive affirmations. Write yourself love notes and leave them in random places. It may sound crazy, but it works. Tell yourself everyday that you love yourself for x, y, and z reasons. When you say something or see it consistently, you are more likely to believe it.

3. Spend time alone. Treat yourself to a movie, dinner, or a shopping trip. Take time to get to know yourself. What things do you like or don't like? What would make you happy? Taking the time to ask yourself some of these important questions may open up some new doors and opportunities for you too!

There's no rule on learning to love yourself. No one will be able to tell you exactly how it's done. That's something you'll discover on your own. This journey will require lots of patience and positivity, but you definitely won't regret it. Good luck femmes!